We had an employee evaluation feedback form when I noted that one of my managers noted that I don’t listen well, and don’t value his opinions. I found the comment strange because his members have also commented that he himself was a very bad listener, and is hardly open minded.

Which got me into thinking — now this is not conclusive, but just an observation that constantly plays almost with regular precision– would it be by any chance that in many cases, we are, in many cases, guilty of the behavior that we complained about?

Have you for instance, meet people:

-that are inconsiderate and feels that they were not treated with consideration by other people

-that are selfish and complains about selfishness in other people.

-that are lazy and complains about laziness in other people.

-that are very discriminatory, and complains about being discriminated.

-that are always late, and complains about being made to wait.

-that are liars, and complains that other people are not being honest with them.

-that are bad payers, and complains that they are not being paid on time by other people.

-that are pseudo- smart and complains about the stupidity of people.

And have you meet happy people who also finds other happy people? Hard working people who never fails to notice the industry of other people?

As I said, this is hardly conclusive, but then we can be very sharp on other people’s fault, and be very blind to our own faults. And it could be human nature to look harder something in others that which we unconsciously know we don’t have. After all, we know the saying about the pot calling the kettle black.

What does it have to do about our plan to be a success? Well, simply maybe next time before we critique, we can be more objective in evaluating our own selves first? Maybe we should be harder on ourselves and seek independent opinion before we start judging?